- Anyone can hold the helm when the sea is calm. But a smooth sea never made a skilled mariner.
- “Don’t go through life, grow through life.” Unknown
- “If you have something to say to a loved one, don’t wait until tomorrow. Too late comes sooner than later.” Nick Welton
- “You will never have more time than you do right now.” Unknown
- Because of our routines, we forget that life is an ongoing adventure. Maya Angelou
- “Other things may change us, but we start and end with the family.” ~Anthony Brandt
- “At times our own light goes out, and is rekindled by the spark of another person. Each of us has cause to think with deep gratitude of those who have lighted the flame within us.” ~ Albert Schweitzer
- I am an expert at coming up with solutions that solve everyday problems.
- I am committed to getting rid of the habits that no longer serve me and implementing ones that do.
- I am moving forward today.
- I do make a difference with every choice, every day, every way.
- I have the time, energy and ability to improve my life.
- I love my family not for who they could be, but for who they are.
- My life is full of abundance in every way and I am so grateful.
- Do you feel connected in your Familial Life? Do you connect with other members in your family? In which relationships does connection seem easy? Why do you think this is so?
- Our familial relationships are among the most important we possess. In your journal, list the top 3 traits you most appreciate about each of your immediate family members. Then yank out a piece of paper and jot a note to one of them, telling them their most appreciated traits.
- Name the 3 most important friendships in your life right now. Reflect on how you’d like to see these friendships strengthened over the next month.
- Wonder is an essential nutrient for a life well lived. Name 10 things (people, places, flavors, songs, events) that completely astonish you.
- Who are the people that matter most to you? Take a few minutes and brainstorm in your journal a creative way you can show each of those closest to you just how valuable they are (i.e. a note of appreciation and gratitude, an act of service, a gift).
- Our friendships open our eyes to ourselves. If someone asked your best friend to list the top 5 things you stand for, what would they say?
- Name three people you most respect. What is it about their character that you admire most?
- People perform best when given clear standards. Standards provide clarity, accountability, and the opportunity for feedback. List three figures – whom you know personally or from afar – who operate with a consistent focus on their standards.
- The choices we make daily are the ones that shape our future. What three people do you know or know of who never seem to tire of making the right decisions? How about making the right decisions for their family?
- Those whom we spend the most time with shape us most profoundly. Name five of the people with whom you spend the majority of your time outside of work. Of those five, which of them inspire you to live life in line with your values?
- Whom we trust speaks volumes. When things aren’t going as planned, whom do you place your trust in? Where do you find rest when the circumstances around you are going haywire?
In setting ourselves up for success, we need to understand the element of control. We all know that we cannot control everything in our lives. At the same time, we understand that there are certain elements of our lives that we are able to control…and still others that only we can control. The measure of control we execute on our limited resources of time, energy, and focus and where we spend them will provide a good indication of what type of results we will have over time. If we neglect to manage what we can, the cares of life will certainly “manage” them for us.
Answering the following questions will help us define and establish our roles and goals in relation to each Life Time Value Account (and any more that they or their answers bring to mind). The greater definition we add to who we are today and what we want going forward in each of these life areas, the easier it will be for us to allocate our finite resources toward each of them and move toward our desired lifestyles.
Since I understand that I am wholly and solely responsible for my own wellness lifestyle and the expression of my genes, what wellness milestones do I want to achieve in the next day, week, month, and year(s)?
What is my spiritual orientation (if any at all), and how does it impact/influence those around me? Is there a particular level of spiritual awareness, (in)dependence, or capability that I want in life?
What of my financial matters do I have absolute control of, and which am I dependent on others (employer, government, etc.) for? What is a practical target for the way I want my accounts to look at this time next month/year?
During my “discretional” time, what would I like to achieve in my own ongoing learning and education? What concepts do I need more understanding in that I can work on gaining if I will allocate time and energy to them? Is there any bad information getting into my mind that I can decide to move away from or filter out somehow?
What is my position within my family? Am I primarily the leader, a contributor, or a subordinate, and how many people in my family do I need to balance my limited resources among? How much and what must I invest into which members of my immediate and extended family to know that I have done as much as I possibly could to arrive at the family structure and relationships that I ultimately desire? What do that structure and those relationships look like?
At what point in my career am I, and how much control over and derived benefit from my own time and efforts do I have? What would I like to change, and what measure of success would I like to achieve in the short-term? In the long-term? Do I want to get to a point that my vocation is less necessity-driven and more passion-driven? What is that point, and what conditions would make it so for me?
Do I know how to enjoy life both when I am by myself and when I am with other people? Who am I within my community of peers and acquaintances? Is that who I ultimately want to be? And if not, how would I define the person I’d like to be for them and the type of influence I’d like to have on those around me?
Taking time out to define where we stand in these areas of life and where we would like to be gives us a distinct advantage over anyone simply moving through life without giving attention to them – we can decide more of our own journey because of an increased awareness in the power of decision. Let’s decide now to take that time, do that assessment, and line ourselves up for progress toward our desired lifestyle.