An Upside to Conflict

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  • How is this struggle or conflict serving you? How will this shape you? Strengthen you? On the other side of this, how will you have grown?
  • A challenge is an opportunity to change – to learn, reflect, and become better. Think of 3 anxieties plaguing your thought process lately. Write out the strongest thought pattern you’ve had around each of them. Then take a minute to write the opposite of each of these thoughts (i.e. Starting a new job: I will not be adequate for the position. Opposite: I am adequate and have the capacity to learn how to completely rock this new position).
  • In all situations we can choose to allow stress to build in our hearts and minds, or let gratitude fill our growing minds and spirit. Reflect on a time you observed someone turn a stressful situation into a civil, reasonable one. Consider a time when you have done the same.


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Do you feel that you waste energy on worrying? You would be more effective if you would simply focus on those areas where you have real influence: what you think, what you say and what you do.

Today, start by practicing what needs to be said.
For each Lifetime Value Account, address the situation that is the  highest priority.

Professional Life Example:  I will speak to my superior about the late hours that keep me away from my family…today.

Where is the Love?

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  • Focus on Unconditional Love: Do you feel Unconditional Love in your Familial Life? Do you sense a genuine caring that is freely given regardless of achievement or behavior? In which relationships does this authentic love seem easiest? Why do you think this is so?
  • OUR SELF TALK CREATES ACTIONS, ACTIONS CREATE OUTCOMES, OUTCOMES CREATE OUR REALITY. What would you like your self talk to sound like? Write three phrases would you regularly like to include.
  • Reflecting on our values motivates the behaviors most congruent with who we are at our best. Who are you when you are operating as your best self in your workplace? Name three traits you exhibit when living like this. What life values do these traits represent? (ie. I am well-rested and able to fully focus on the people and tasks I interact with. Value: Presence).
  • Each of us possess the capacity to surprise ourselves with what we are physically capable of. When was the last time you surprised yourself – pushing further and accomplishing more than you expected? How did you feel after it?

What’s Your Vision?

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  • Imagine that you had the ability to create the life that you want. For each category of your life identify and visualize what you would love to create.  What do you really want? Describe your vision using the framework of Be, Do and Have for your Familial, Financial, Intellectual, Physical, Professional, Social and Spiritual Life.
  • We are hard wired to believe in something. What have you been wondering about lately? In your day-to-day head game, is your thought process more like a sailboat on a windless day – or a buoy in a thunderstorm? If you could explore the “reason why _______ happens” – what would _______ be?
  • Consistent, daily rituals allow us to get the most important things done during our workday. Are your regular start-of-your-workday practices launching you into your workday effectively?
  • Successful habits are like great friends: They walk with us through all seasons of life, keep us in line when necessary, and enable us to have a better time with them than we ever could without them. What great practice have you dreamt of, hoping it would someday be a regular part of your life? Why not start now?
  • To create change, we’ve got to know what we are looking for. List the top 3 things you’d like to change about your workday. How would you like these to look instead?
  • In order to move toward health, you’ve got to know what a thriving, happy you will look like! Name 5 ways you’d like to see yourself get healthier. State them as though they have already become reality. For example, “I take the stairs without losing my breath,” “I get enough sleep that I awake feeling rested,” and “I move, pant, and sweat 7 days a week.”
  • Investing in yourself is crucial to growth. What was the last book you read, seminar you attended, or lecture you listened to that led to your personal growth? How about your financial growth? Reflect on the concept that has stuck with you most from each of them.
  • Completing important tasks before they become urgent illustrates true prioritization. Envision yourself accomplishing one of your recent goals before the end of this month. What’s the goal? How do you feel once it’s completed? What comes because of it?
  • Write down 3 of your best excuses for why you are not where you want to be with your fitness. Next to each of these excuses, write one decision that will move you in direction of your desired health outcome. (i.e. My schedule is too hectic for me to work out. – I will map out my workouts on the family calendar at the beginning of the week).
  • Let your deepest values become a greater guide to your daily choices. Reflect upon 5 values you desire to align your actions around, regardless of the circumstances (i.e. compassion, responsibility, honesty, patience, gratitude…).
  • Our limited resources – time, energy, focus, and money – must be put to use in accordance with what we value most. What were three of the most valuable financial investments you made over the last year? Why were they valuable?

Focus on Connection

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  • Do you feel connected in your Familial Life? Do you connect with other members in your family? In which relationships does connection seem easy? Why do you think this is so?
  • Our familial relationships are among the most important we possess. In your journal, list the top 3 traits you most appreciate about each of your immediate family members. Then yank out a piece of paper and jot a note to one of them, telling them their most appreciated traits.
  • Name the 3 most important friendships in your life right now. Reflect on how you’d like to see these friendships strengthened over the next month.
  • Wonder is an essential nutrient for a life well lived. Name 10 things (people, places, flavors, songs, events) that completely astonish you.
  • Who are the people that matter most to you? Take a few minutes and brainstorm in your journal a creative way you can show each of those closest to you just how valuable they are  (i.e. a note of appreciation and gratitude, an act of service, a gift).
  • Our friendships open our eyes to ourselves. If someone asked your best friend to list the top 5 things you stand for, what would they say?
  • Name three people you most respect. What is it about their character that you admire most?
  • People perform best when given clear standards. Standards provide clarity, accountability, and the opportunity for feedback. List three figures – whom you know personally or from afar – who operate with a consistent focus on their standards.
  • The choices we make daily are the ones that shape our future. What three people do you know or know of who never seem to tire of making the right decisions? How about making the right decisions for their family?
  • Those whom we spend the most time with shape us most profoundly. Name five of the people with whom you spend the majority of your time outside of work. Of those five, which of them inspire you to live life in line with your values?
  • Whom we trust speaks volumes. When things aren’t going as planned, whom do you place your trust in? Where do you find rest when the circumstances around you are going haywire?

Embracing Struggle

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  • Embracing Struggle: What is the primary source of struggle, resistance or challenge in your life right now? Address this issue in the context of each of the Lifetime Value Categories: Example: Familial Life: My sister in law is creating stress in our home because of the choices that she makes… Example: Recreational/ Social Life: I never have enough time to spend with friends. I have lost touch with several…
  • By choosing to embrace struggle, we bring about opportunity for growth. Consider a current struggle or conflict area in your professional life. Take a few minutes to write out the nature of this struggle. Then consider your ideal response the next time this conflict comes up.
  • In nature, we encounter a challenge or struggle, adapt, and move forward. List 3 of the greatest battles you are facing with your body. Take one of those battles and envision what complete success would look like in it.
  • Family matters can offer us some of our greatest challenges. Reflect on a hard conversation you are in the midst of with a family member or close friend. What is making it so hard? What would the greatest outcome be, from your perspective? How about the greatest outcome from their perspective?

Focus on Balance

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Focus on Balance :  Where in your life do you feel a lack of Balance?  What makes you feel this way? Why do you think that is?  What could you do to deliberately improve this situation?

Answer this question in accordance with each of the Seven Lifetime Value Categories: Familial, Financial, Intellectual, Physical, Professional, Social, Spiritual