We all want to be happier. Even the happiest among us want to be happier still.
Know this: Harvard University is deeply engaged in the study of happy people. They have teased-out the common traits and behaviors of the happiest people they could find. Here are some of the high points:
1. Use your strengths. It turns out that when we get to do things that come easier to us, we are happier. Humans like to be good at things. Remember that the next time that you apply for a job, encourage your child or ask your spouse to help you do something.
2. Savor the moment. Apparently we needed research to tell us to stop and smell the roses. (Or at least I did.) As the world speeds-by, it seems that those who stop to appreciate how freakin’ fortunate we all are experience greater happiness. I’ll have to schedule that.
3. Engagement. Once again, the evidence frowns on multi-tasking. It seems that trying to focus on more than one thing at a time not only interferes with accuracy, quality, creativity, production and safety; it turns out that it robs us of our happiness as well.
Do this: Embrace the fact that it is not only what we do that matters, but how we do it. Accept that your mind is a magnificent single-processor that blooms in the light of purposeful work; do something that allows you to express your natural virtues and engage in the splendor of the here and now.
Dr. Stephen Franson